Every year some of the most popular New Years resolutions have to do with health and weight

To be healthy is a choice*
loss. As we become more sophisticated so do our resolutions which today may focus on weight loss and sugar, glycemic index and weight loss, resolving to maintain weight loss, and so on. Whatever our resolutions, they all seem so obvious and so doable on New Year’s day and we tell ourselves we’ll enjoy ourselves one last time and then tomorrow we’ll get healthy. Sound familiar? Unfortunately most of us don’t succeed, and next year we try again….with more to lose. Sigh!
Part of the issue is that we tend to focus on the weight and on the narrow definition of weight gain which is calories. Just cut back a little we tell ourselves. I once had a good friend who was very excited about a new weight loss plan she read about. You can eat whatever you want, she said. You just figure what you would normally eat and then eat half that much. So, sitting in front of a plate of cookies she would announce that since normally she would have eaten two cookies, on her new diet she would just enjoy one. Until that one was gone, and she would suddenly remember that actually her old pattern was probably to eat 4 cookies, so she could feel OK helping herself to two…and so on.
My friend was well intentioned, but not very honest with herself. She wanted to lose weight, but her desire and her mind weren’t on the same page. To be healthy is a choice and one of the first steps to getting there is to realize you are more than a physical body. You also have a mind and emotions and they all have to work together or you won’t get there.
Yes we are physical, and calories do count. However, our minds and how we think have a big influence on how we are physically. If you want to be healthier, whether or not that involves weight loss, first be clear on where you are with the process and be truthful with yourself. If conventional dieting has never worked for you, find a different way. There are no shortages of books and experts on weight loss. Not every system works for everyone, so find what works for you and make a commitment you can keep. Then find the support you need to stick with the program whether it’s a friend, a family member or an organized group. When my friend kept rationalizing how many cookies she could eat it got to be a bit of a joke which we all enjoyed. Would it have been different if she had genuinely asked for our support? The answer is definitely yes….but she didn’t and she is still weight challenged.
Emotional issues obviously also have a big part to play in weight loss and our ability to keep it off. A simple example is coffee drinking. Lots of us drink coffee, and for some people it is a way to keep going when they feel tired, depressed or anxious. If caffeine is your drug of choice be aware that it can cause your body to secrete excess cortisol which affects blood sugar levels and causes you to feel hungry. If food is readily available you may find yourself snacking despite your best intentions. Again, the calories and excess eating follow the emotional and mental state of the individual…and their choices.
Obviously losing weight is a great way to be healthier and spend less time with your doctor. Start with recognizing you are more than just a physical body, take stock of where you are and what works best for you, and ask for help. Your chances of success will go way up.
Share some of your experiences with weight, dieting and friends. What works for you?
*Photograph by Charles M. Wrenn III